Dreams about death are always complicated to experience. They’re also really difficult to interpret sometimes because of how shocking and scary they can be. However, if you realize that your unconscious mind is simply trying to work out a problem with symbolism and narrative, it lightens that mental and emotional load considerably.
What a lot of people don’t understand when they have death dreams is that the death itself isn’t usually the most important part. Instead, that death is usually just the context for everything else happening around it. You can think of it as the stage that a play is happening on. If you focus too much on the stage itself, you miss what’s happening right on top of it.
How to Approach Interpreting Dreams of Someone Dying
If you’re trying to figure out what does it mean when someone dies in your dream, it’s easy to put your focus on the wrong thing. Instead of focusing on the death itself, you want to think about the context of the death. A good place to start is to answer the following questions:
- Was it someone you know or a complete stranger?
- What happened before and after they died?
- Did you know the death was coming (ie: an illness), or was it all of a sudden?
- Were you left in danger before, during or after their death?
When someone dies in a dream, the key to interpreting the meaning is to actually look at all of the surrounding circumstances. Answering questions like these and looking at the underlying meaning of the answers is the best place to start.
What Does It Mean When Someone Dies in Your Dream?
To answer this question, we have to break it down a bit. Dreaming of someone dying is often your mind trying to work out a plan in case something goes wrong. As human beings, in real life, one of our biggest strengths over other species is our ability to plan ahead. When we dream about death, it can be seen as our unconscious mind trying to form a plan for what happens in the case that some type of opportunity is cut off from us.
This could be in the form of losing our jobs, our car breaks down, we leave a relationship or any number of things big or small.
That’s why asking something like, “What does it mean when you dream about someone dying?,” doesn’t have a specific, concrete answer. It can come as actually seeing a person die, or you can see a room become unclean and break down. It depends completely on you as an individual and what you’re going through. However, it rarely has to do with death itself. Instead, that death is a symbol for the fear of loss of opportunity, and dreaming about death tends to be your mind trying to plan ahead in case that loss happens.
Breaking Down Dreams of Someone Dying Into the Giveaway Signals
If you find yourself having dreams of someone dying, we strongly suggest that you break it down into key components by answering these questions:
- What are you most worried about losing right now? A simple list of three to five things is plenty.
- What did the death in your dream change about your circumstances? This should point to some of the things on your list.
- How did you deal with those changes in circumstances? Again, this should point more to some things on your list than others.
- How did you feel about these changes after the fact? This is often a measure of how prepared your brain feels about dealing with these potential changes.
The potential for loss is at the core of these dreams, and if you’re having them regularly, it means your brain is concerned that you don’t have an adequate plan in case those things actually happen. As a result, it’s simulating somewhat similar types of situations to see what you can come up with as a sort of practice test.
While the stress of dreaming someone dies can be serious, it can also bring your attention to areas in your life that need shoring up. This is an approach we often see in dream interpretation where your unconscious mind sees a problem that it’s trying to bring up and make conscious so that you’ll think about it and face it head-on. Since our unconscious mind has a hard time speaking to us in plain language, it has to use this type of symbolism and narrative instead.
With that said, there is one special case that can be very interesting that you should pay attention to.
What Happens Afterward: Did You Dream of a Dead Person Giving You Something?
A really common pattern that we see in dreams about death, especially about a loved one, is the theme of being given something just before they die. Whatever that thing is should your focus in these dreams.
These types of dreams are actually much easier to interpret because they give you a sort of “cheat code” for what to focus on.
Dreams of someone dying right after they have given you something always come down to the meaning of the thing you were given. This can mean classic symbolism, but it can also be whatever the symbolism was of that object between the two of you specifically.
More times than not, you’re worried about losing whatever that gift means to you. While it may be about losing the gift itself in rare cases, it’s generally more about the meaning of the gift instead. As a result, you should spend some time working out, in as much detail as you can stand, the meaning of that gift and what it would mean to lose it.
However, sometimes you can dream about someone after they died in real life. This is a different type of dream about death, but it mostly works out in the same way.
What Does It Mean When You Dream About Someone That Died Already?
Sometimes you’ll have dreams about people who have already died. In your dreams, however, they’ll often appear as if they were still living. This is a sort of inversion of the typical case of dreaming about death since the living version of the person in the dream comes last instead of first.
Generally speaking, this breaks down into two cases:
- You’re dreaming about someone you didn’t know like a historical or fictional figure.
- It’s a dream about someone you actually knew in real life like a loved one.
In either case, the interpretation process is actually straightforward with a little bit of a twist. You’ll still stick with the thematic idea of your mind being concerned about planning for the potential of loss. However, these two types of dreams point to slightly different approaches to figure out what you’re worried about losing in the first place.
If you dream about someone you didn’t know, then you should look at the symbolism of that person. This is why dreaming of dead historical or fictional figures is so common. We never knew them, so the only way our minds can conceptualize them is through pure symbolism. That symbolism will be tied to what you’re afraid of losing in most cases.
The other option is when you dream about someone you knew. One of the more famous examples of this in action is when the musical artist T-Pain dreamed about his dead uncle. You’ll almost always interact with that person in your dream in a way where they tell you something or give you something. The thing they’re telling (or giving) you is actually your unconscious mind trying to give your conscious mind a message in a way that you’ll listen to.
Using Lucid Dreaming to Communicate With a Version of a Loved One
By getting your attention in this way, your unconscious mind is trying to drive you toward preparing for certain situations. It will use an important figure like this to get the message through to you since your relationship to that person was so important to you.
However, you don’t have to wait on this to happen organically. You can also provoke it by using lucid dreaming techniques that can help you to bring versions of these people up in your dreams whenever you want.
Jesse G. is a long-time fan of the esoteric in all of its forms and its effects on performance, happiness and stress in a variety of people. His work centers primarily around allowing people to use a variety of areas to figure out what works best for them as individuals.